I am an introvert

August 20, 2013
Do you remember when you were in school, there were two types of distinctly different students? 
The first group of students were the popular ones. They were outgoing, confident, active and always be the leaders of the class. 
The second group of students were quiet, less active, suck at sports and even looked nerdy.

Time flies. You've grown up. After a long working week, some people would hang out at the club. Loud music, strangers and the excited crowd refresh them. On the other hand, some people prefer to dine at a quieter restaurant with their favourite people, or even stay at home and read. 

The first group of people are often thought as the cool and fun people. The second group of people, more often than not, are considered to be conservative, not fun, dull and even eccentric (if you are the stay at home and read type).

But the truth is, it's not about being cool or not, it's all about our own personality, our preference, our choice.

People in the first group are usually extroverts. The second group of people are most probably introverts. Extroverts recharge through exciting social stimulation. Introverts prefer gaining energy from tranquility and solitude (They are not strange or dull). 

I am an introvert. And I used to doubt whether I am strange or dull until I read this book and understand who I am.

Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking
By Susan Cain

Not that I don't like to have fun. I don't mind hanging out. I am not sociophobic. I have friends, I like yam-cha, I join tonnes of activities, I love travelling, I attend forums, I am not afraid of speaking in front of a crowd...   But I do prefer spending a lot of my time reading and thinking. 


I used to question this: so how quiet introverts can fit into this predominantly extroverted world? People are expected to be loud, quick and dare to show themselves to look clever. Our business culture is looking for people who are funny, friendly, self-promoting and confident. Our education system also prefers students who respond quickly, speak up in class and look confident all the time. 

But not all of us are like that.

I realize that many people act, speak and respond fast to a stimulation. But another group of people prefer listening, thinking then only do the talking. 

Introverts are gifted the power of listening, and then analyze the piece of information before speaking. They might appear slow-responding compared to extroverts but this process of listening and digesting often results in deeper thoughts and sometimes, better decisions.

Extroversion and introversion are not ultimate behaviour. We have both personalities that interchange at times when playing different roles. Extroverts also enjoy solitude at some times and introverts can have tonnes of fun with people. However most of the time one behaviour will be dominant over the other.

Susan Cain spoke at TED about The Power of Introverts, which I thought was a great speech.

And this is one of Bill Gates' favourite TED talks. He, Warren Buffet, J.K.Rowling, Abraham Lincoln and so many other successful people are introverts too.

Introversion doesn't necessarily mean shy and anti-social. Introverts can be equally excellent, brave and confident, for creativity and leadership, in the fields of business, science, art and literature. 

"The monotony and solitude of a quiet life stimulates the creative mind," by Albert Einstein, who is an introvert too.

We introverts have our own little quiet worlds up here, in our minds.

To know if you are an introvert or extrovert, do the quiz here.
Read 31 unmistakeable signs that you're an introvert
If you have plenty of time and are curious of your own personality, you can do personality tests here and here.


  1. Many introverts feel lonely because the society couldn't understand or accept why they are so quiet. I am an Introvert, too. And, nice to meet you! :)

  2. Thanks for dropping by! Nice to meet you too!


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